Apologising for your feelings

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Have you ever been made to feel as though you are wrong for feeling the way you feel? Have you been made to apologise for expressing how you feel?

I currently feel as though I have been bullied into apologising for how I feel about a certain situation when the other parties had no intention to apologise for making me feel this way.

I am so frustrated right now and I can see that a drastic change needs to be made. There will be some people who will be happy with this drastic change and there will be one person that will be devastated but it is going to have to be done.

I’m sorry if this sounds so cryptic to you but as I know have family reading my blogs and make more out of my posts than what is actually written, I am currently censoring my writing which is a shame because my blogs WERE my outlet for my feelings and thoughts but now I know that some people are using my blogs as ammo.

In time I will stop censoring my posts and write exactly what and how I feel and if it offends certain people then they have the option to close the browser and not read my blogs. But of course, that will not happen because then they won’t have anything to complain about.


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  1. Kathy on April 5, 2008 12:28 pm

    I don’t often find myself feeling like I need to apologize for my own feelings….but I have been put in a strange position where someone (like my husband) is apologizing for my feelings FOR me. Instead of saying he’s sorry for something he DID he’ll say sorry that I got upset about what he did. And I just look at him confused like “really??? Did I just hear that correctly.” It’s kind of like a back handed apology.

    I think it’s healthy to be open minded and listen to other people’s views if they feel you are over reacting to something, but it’s also important to stay true to your beliefs. I mean, how do you NOT feel what you’re feeling???

  2. Shirley on April 9, 2008 6:47 am

    I completely understand how you are feeling about what you have written here on your blog.

    I had a friend who complained about what I wrote and didn’t mention them in my blog post. Well I mentioned them in my blog post in a very nice and great way and that person is now mad at me. Super confused by that person. I am tired of apologizing too for expressing my feelings. I am really a nice person. However, having to apologize for something I did not intentionally mean to hurt this person’s feelings is now hurting my feelings. When is enough, enough.

    Thanks for sharing with us. Keep up the great job you do on your blogs.:)

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